As part of our interview series we get an opportunity to share experiences of our most valued professional cuddle therapist and enthusiast cuddlers of our cuddle community!
Today we are going to share some most intriguing cuddling insights from one of our enthusiast cuddlers of our cuddling community – Choices Vital
Tell us about your experience as an enthusiast cuddler, and what pre-pandemic cuddling looked like for you?
I have been more of an enthusiast cuddler and over several years I have met tons of professional cuddlers or even enthusiast cuddle buddies.
Professional Cuddling remains to be an emerging discipline.
Professional Cuddling as a discipline involves one primary ingredient and that is TOUCH! Touch therapy is an important aspect of Professional Cuddling. Although, given the discipline is emerging and evolving, other aspects of professional cuddling involves listening, talking, sharing, and connectedness.
For me specifically, any session is primarily dominated with aspects of touch based therapy but at the same time there is another important aspect for non-so touch oriented elements that helps me is the connectedness during any session. I have been able to mostly enjoy all my sessions with professional cuddlers who are being present for me, talk to me, share with me and just be there with me! That might sound bit all about me needing lot of attention! Well the fact of the matter is, yes being a care giver and out there helping multiple people, it drains me significantly that I do need the me time and with professional cuddlers, I am fortunate to get that needed attention and care!
One important thing, I have been personally volunteering at some of the Elder Care centers where I have gone and met with Elderly who live alone and are lonely. I tend to spend time connected with them. With them it is less about touch therapy and more about being present for them! Reason I emphasize this for building awareness about professional cuddling is therapy for lonely people of all ages, touch-deprived people of all ages, singles who are looking for connection without getting into a commitment relationship! It’s a platonic wellness discipline!
What is the importance of in-person cuddles?
We as humans are touchy-feely individuals with few exceptions! We are huggers! There is a reason we tend to have pets like dogs or cats or any other fluffy pets! We like warmth! So in-person cuddles is the key ingredient for a true genuine act of wellness.
How your cuddle experience changed under lockdown, and how you adapted to the loss of in-person intimacy?
Maybe I am speaking for the entire cuddle community out there but I am pretty sure it was a big shocker for all whether it is Enthusiast Cuddlers or Professional Cuddlers! We are all touchy-feely individuals! For any professional cuddler or Enthusiast cuddler – touch giving or receiving is one of their needs for well-being! Only a hugger can understand truly what it means to be suddenly not able to hug anyone due to social distancing.
In all honesty nothing can replace the in-person intimacy and connection! There is nothing sexual about it! People at times tend to mix intimacy with sex! There are various aspects of intimacy! For lack of words, platonic wellness cuddling is probably an affectionate & care form of intimacy than anything else.
There is no true adapting to loss of in-person intimacy when it comes to me! Although, for sure there are people out there who have achieved a next level of maturity without the need for physical connection. But for me, there is a big learning curve out there to reach that level of maturity 🙂 !!
In-fact it is scary to even think of a world without in-person intimacy. It will be probably the most unhealthy world down the line OR if we are fortunate we all will turn into spiritually uplifted beings! Those are the two extremes I see, there won’t be an in-between! 🙂 !
Said that, I did for sure took this as an opportunity to explore some other aspects of wellness therapy involved listening, talking, sharing, and being connected with someone for a cause! So that was/is the temporary adaptation for me I guess! I will emphasize again I truly hope it’s temporary situation till there is a vaccine out there or herd immunity developed!
Although, I do know that in-person touch wellness is resuming but with a lot of precaution and care! While hopefully ensuring abiding to the pandemic guidelines and protocols! I guess at some point we all will have to realize that folks who are within the cuddling community as enthusiasts or professionals cannot stay virtually connected for a longer time, physical in-person connection is like food for them!! This physical connection can be in the form of any kind of relationship, not necessarily a sort of romantic or couple kind. It is mostly buddy bonding kind!
What digital cuddles look like for you, and what you think you have/haven’t been able to accomplish while being limited by digital tools?
Honestly speaking, there isn’t truly anything like digital cuddling! It’s nothing less than faking ourselves probably unless you are part of the community that has matured to that level! It’s a boon for those who found their leap!
Said that, there is probably a digital connection for lack of words! and even the concept of self-cuddling that is evolving more prominently with the combination of digital connection!
What I am observing amongst the cuddle community like CuddleConnect.com is lots of cuddlers professionals or enthusiasts that during the pandemic times, they are finding creative ways to stay connected with each other across the world! Infact, one of the most visible thing that has become in the CuddleConnect.com community is that geographical barriers are in a way broken. Lots of members across the world have been reaching out to me at least and I am doing the same giving an opportunity to now connect with each other across states, countries and even continents. I am noticing there is more openness now amongst non-local members who are willingly engaging with me even though I am not local to them. I guess we all are taking advantage of Virtual Buddy Connection concept. It’s all good experimental thing for me and worth trying while I am limited with my physical connections!
Professionals are now not limited to just connect with people locally but now they can connect virtually with anyone. Indeed no physical in-person connection can be established but instead it is getting replaced with Lot of Virtual meet and sessions in form of Talk, Listen, Share, Connect, Exchange Messages, and one important aspect Professional Cuddlers are even teaching Self-Cuddling, Meditation, Distant Reiki, Yoga, Fitness, and more via their special sessions.
So that’s the exploration phase I am noticing as I engage with multiple members pro or otherwise, it appears that the cuddle discipline is growing beyond just the idea of Physical touch into Digital Connectedness !!
What you think digital intimacy is during this time and what you’ve been able to learn about yourself?
In a way, I answered that above in the last paragraph around the aspect of how digital connectedness is emerging in these times while it will definitely never be a permanent replacement to in-person intimacy! It better not else I don’t what will happen of me 🙂 !! lol! I am significantly touch starved while being extra cautious to not become the reason to cause an exposure to any elderly’s health condition negatively that I have commitment towards!
Our questions from CuddleConnect.com to you are all converging to ask a simple question: what is a cuddle to you, when you can’t do it in-person?
Hopefully, you got your answers in all of my above responses! Probably that’s all I have to say for now!
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