“There is a myth of the slippery slope that non-sexual touch inevitably leads to sexual touch, which is unfounded, scientifically unsupported and basically is paranoid. It’s pretty crazy actually if we just look at it. The assumption that soothing touch leads to sexual touch is nonsensical. In spite of numerous therapeutic approaches, theories and practices that systematically and effectively use touch in therapy, it has been marginalized, forbidden, called a taboo, often sexualized and at times criminalized by many schools and ethicists, licensing boards as well.” – Ofer Zur
“I felt that if he touched me, I’d die, and then the thought crawled into my brain that if he didn’t touch me, I’d die.”
Relationships don’t just thrive by saying kind words to each other or buying an amazing present for one another. There are certain emotional connections that can only be created with the aid of touch. A consistent soft and tender touch can make a relationship gain much more meaning and strength.
A soft touch is not just a romantic gesture. It renders immense wellness for us. Who wouldn’t want a relationship where there is love and good health? Touch has the potential to save relationships that are being threatened due to a lack of intimacy and affectionate touch. Even sex is secondary. Cuddling possesses the great potential to hold to the center of peace, happiness and love. The increasing frequency of relationships and marriages crumbling these days is worrying. If you think it’s because of the dampening of a sexlife, it’s not a truism. In fact, it is a truism that more than half of married couples (male and female) still have sex outside the shores of their marriage. It is obvious that long-term and genuine relationships/marriage cannot be achieved only through sex. While sex is important in the lives of two partners, it should be noted that it is just one out of the many buckles that fasten a relationship/marriage. Trust is the fertile soil in which healthy relationships/marriage are the foundation for growth. It is an unarguable fact that violating the bond of trust is like putting a big crack in the soil. Knowingly or unknowingly, the big crack will yield unproductive soil. There is no argument in saying that trust is the pillar of a purposeful and successful relationship. And trust can be developed, restored and maintained by partners through cuddling. Cuddling is referred to as the ‘livewire’ of any typical relationship/marriage.
Based on the above, emotional links are cut short once there is an absence of cuddle between partners or couples. With this in free flow, disloyalty will creep in, damages occur and the dissolution of the relationship becomes inevitable. More importantly, the loyalty and fidelity of individuals in a relationship can be sealed by continuous emotional connection with their partners. It is very likely that an absence of cuddling – being an instrument of building trust, can cause trauma and betrayal of one another. While many people have tried to portray sex as a building block of relationships, it is continuously being spoken as a weak instrument for strengthening love and affection. In fact, there are a number of cases of partners who regularly have sex; yet they still cheat due to high libido. We will now examine the importance of touch and cuddling and its capability of sustaining long-term relationships and marriage. This is in an attempt to revive broken relationships and homes. Your attention is therefore called to the following narrative. A dating tip when you date someone – if both of you are more comfortable cuddling intimately each other for longer durations, there is a higher chance you both will bond well and more importantly there is a greater likelihood you will end up in a long-lasting lifetime relationship. Touch and relationships are inseparable variables.
Research has revealed the capacity and valuable role of touch and cuddling in strengthening relationships/marriage. It is fundamental to know that touch is an essential element in the development of our physical, emotional and social lives. Touch, however, is the elementary stage in the cuddling process.
More fundamentally, the art of touch cannot be ruled out in any given purposeful relationship. Looking at the two variables; touch and relationship; can one be isolated from the other? It’s impossible/ This is due to the fact that regular and consistent exchange of touch by partners will lead to the emotional investment between the partners or couples. As a result, the two variables are inseparable. It is time we prioritize touch with our partners. The ability of two partners to show intimacy and love in a relationship or marriage rests on the art of touch or cuddle. Touch is, indeed, an amazing way of communicating compassion, tenderness, love, gratitude and other awesome feelings of desire to your partner.
In the light of the foregoing, it is vividly clear that touch and purposeful relationship/marriage are two sides of a coin. That is to say, they are two inseparable variables
The emotional and social benefits of touch, skin to skin contact can help develop a baby’s brain. A number of researchers have validated the fact that skin to skin contact amazingly improves the growth and sleep behaviors of a baby.
Our Cuddle Toddler is almost approaching 1 year! A quick look back!
Back in the year 2005-2006, one of us launched a community dating and match making online website services. It was a great experience and one of the memorable smooth journey!
After being away from the online industry for few year, one of the days we got together in or around August of 2018 to discuss launching first ever mobile apps for Cuddling Community.
That very evening, one of us started to explore what all ready-made design themes are available and what all open source code base was accessible to build mobile apps with minimum features. Within no time we had the first alpha version of our cuddle mobile apps ready for both Android platform and iOS platform. While we were building cuddling app for smart phone and smart devices, we also created our new cuddle site.
While the techies were busy with coding the apps and site, one of us felt the need that we should create some short valuable videos for our snuggling community members and snuggle professionals. One of us stepped-in to start creating concise, and focused short cuddle videos and professional cuddle therapy online training videos too. Information oriented Cuddling Videos creation was probably one of the fun parts!
Developing apps (and site) was probably the most easy part for the techies! We did an alpha launch of the new cuddle apps and site by December end 2018 / early January 2019. We know, We know – we had few bugs, issues, and challenges with our mobile apps and site. Like every new site or apps, there are always some glitches or kinks that gets uncovered after launch :-). We are constantly working towards improving our apps and site experience. We could have probably done a better job with our aggressive regression testing. It was a lesson learnt and we are working on improving our production roll-outs here onwards!
Probably it was not the best decision to divert some of the resources to build the website for cuddlers along with mobile apps. Our primary goal was to build a full blown mobile app for cuddling community as there was none existing at that time and there is none existing till date! But looking back, we are glad we did the website too as we have found that we are able to equally attract valuable cuddlers to our site as much as we are attracting to our mobile apps.
Guess what was the hard part? – The hard part was within few weeks of the launch without even starting any marketing, we got swamped by fake profiles, scammers, impersonators, and what not! We felt like we were caught completely off-guard. We struggled for few days/weeks trying to manually chase down the origination points and block them step at a time. We had a realization it wasn’t a sustainable model, so we dropped all our improvements we were working towards and diverted our resources and energy towards figuring out measures we can take to curb fakers.
While we implemented several measures at each level from the point of entry into our snuggle apps and site, we learnt dealing with this fake is going to be an ongoing challenge. We were glad to notice that with the various measures we implemented, we almost noticed over 70% reduction in the fake profile influx. That was a definite win!
We understand in doing so, we might have implemented some false positive situations or un-required gates for our genuine members. But rest assured, our actions were in an effort to improve our member experience in the longer run. We are open to suggestions always. So please keep the communication channel open with your candid feedback!
It has not been an easy first year for us. But it was for EACH of you and your constant support, help, and kind words – that has kept us going! So we wanted to thank our growing snuggle community for the overwhelming support at all fronts!
There is so much more to share but we will save it for next time.
What a memorable first year!
How to be a Safe & Smart Cuddler. Safety Tips & Tricks for Cuddling.