Health Benefits

Is Platonic Cuddling for you? Who Benefits from Platonic Cuddles?

Interested to learn more about Touch Practitioners aka Cuddle Therapist and Cuddle Empaths ? – Meet Cuddler Empath and learn a bit about this empath and also what touch therapy is all about! Our quick virtual interview with CuddlerEmpath89 that we hope you will find valuable !

1. Why did you choose Professional Cuddling?


Professional Cuddling fits with the core of who I am & my philosophy, my personal gifts and my professional qualifications skills & experience – I have a lot to offer in this area. I love to combine areas of wellness. I believe healing and well-being takes a multi function approach. I personally know how being touch-deprived negatively affects your wellbeing. I believe in the scientifically proven and suggested impact. I want to give back, share what I believe works and educate. Providing professional cuddles is a practical and meaningful way to do this, it just fits.

2. In your own words express how you can help your clients?


Through the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual benefits of platonic touch / professional-cuddling. Through the scientifically proven health benefits in all of the above areas. Through my natural gifts and professional skills I already and uniquely possess. By combining services to offer them additional powerful healing and improving their well-being. Building confidence, healing trauma, improving communication skills, improving their relationships, self-growth and empowerment. Emotional support and basic human attention & care. 

3. Who in your opinion are your ideal clients? 

I strive to be inclusive to everyone and everyone benefits. Ideal clients are 1. Chronic illness clients ie fibromyalgia 2. Disabled / intellectual disability clients ie neurological conditions, austism spectrum 3. Mental illness clients ie anxiety & depression 4. Single, divorced or touch deprived 5. Elderly clients. 6. Clients with confidence, social issues 
Each will recieve unique benefits and would also benefit from individually tailored sessions. 

4. What are your most unique skills that would help in Professional Cuddling?

I’m enthusiastic, bubbly, excellent people skills, empathetic, compassionate, emotionally intelligent, natural with touch. 
I’m a qualified health professional (Occupational Therapist) of 8+ years and in health care / customer service industry for 16+ years. I am highly skilled in communication, motivational nterviewing, functional assessment, behaviour change, pain management, rehabilitation, well-being. I’m a disability expert. 
I am doing further study towards life coaching, health & wellness coaching, relationships & Intimacy, mental health, exercise & nutrition, massage techniques, mindfulness & meditation etc. 

What sets me apart is offering the professional cuddling experience with other calming and healing elements like compassionate active listening, mindfulness, aromatherapy, hand or facial massage techniques, forest bathing and other outdoor options like camping cuddles. 

5. Introduce yourself as a Professional Cuddler

I’m CuddlerEmpath89, a health professional, wellness advocate and Professional Cuddler. I believe in the power of human physical platonic touch. I believe the world is deprived of one of the most natural, healing therapies out there and that everyone can benefit. Touch has been scientifically proven to improve multiple areas of your emotional, psychological and psychological health. Natural healing hormones are released, stress is reduced and even aides in illness prevention & anti-aging. 

6. What are the most important boundaries in touch therapy session?

Firstly establishing the clients (and your own) physical and mental/emotional boundaries – ie areas of the body, language, triggers etc. Establishing the process of communication to manage changes of boundaries. Managing sexual and emotional boundaries / expectations. Considering and reviewing the attachment, depencey, addiction risk and mental wellbeing of both involved. Always put the client and your well-being first. 

7. How would you ensure that no client crosses legal boundaries in a session?

Initially during pre-session communication (initial phone interview and at start of session) – I will reiterate the service is platonic, why, and outcomes of any sexual or inappropriate language / behaviour. If such behaviour rises during the session, I will immediately acknowledge it via a warning or an immediate end to the session. I will also ensure the client follows contractual processes like the client agreement, waiver etc. I will ensure my clothing, the environment and language is non sexually suggestive. 

8. How you see yourself contributing to cuddle community?

Being a successful, professional advocate for professional cuddling. Getting the word out there and growing my local community (New Zealand) access to professional cuddling services. Creating events to expand my reach and impact. Creating accessible options. Providing an addition or alternative (whilst I still encourage other professional services ie psychology) – I want to reach those clients who would be alone otherwise. Mental illness is rampant and growing such an industry makes so much sense! 

9. Share something that describes you as an individual

I personally have been diagnosed with multiple chronic conditions, I have a personal journey towards pain management, recovery and rehabilitation over the years. I have learnt so much personally and professionally towards wellbeing that I want to create businesses that include the most powerful tools for others. I know what it’s like to be bed bound, in pain, completely alone. Nobody deserves that. Everyone deserves unconditional love, respect, appreciation, affection and to be held / heard / seen and a strong quality of life / wellness. 

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Professional Cuddler

Have you wondered who are Certified Cuddle Professionals and why do they choose cuddling as a profession? Here is an insight from Ava Cuddles Best – A Certified Cuddle Professional at CuddleConnect.com

1. Why did you choose Professional Cuddling?

I choose to become a Professional Cuddler because I am intuitive, an active listener, read body language, and have been encouraged by many of my friends to pursue an endeavor where I am adding to other people’s lives since they know that my passion is to help others.

2. In your own words express how you can help your clients?

I can help clients by listening to both their verbal and individual physical needs. For example, I ask before touching or holding, I listen carefully and assure and encourage them to feel and express themselves without being judged. I let them know they are in a safe space to unfold; however, they wish from the weight of daily life stressors.

3. Who in your opinion are your ideal clients?

In my opinion, everyone is different, and no cuddle session is ever alike, so I can’t say there is an ideal type. Still, I can say that those who actively rest and let themselves be held without apprehensions have been the ones I enjoyed more than others because I can feel that they trust me and allow me to guide them to relax and be themselves.

4. What are your most unique skills that would help in Professional Cuddling?

I have a certification in Reiki energy healing, so when I am cuddling, I receive feedback on my warmth. Which from experience, know that people who work with energy healing tend to be warm. I am into meditation and breath-work, too, which come in handy when I feel someone could use deep breathing exercises to unload. Last but not least, I practice yoga and tai chi. Both modalities help me help the person I am working with if they have pain or discomfort because I’ll advise them to do simple stretches to make themselves feel better. 

5. Introduce yourself as a Professional Cuddler

Here you can read all about me as a Professional Cuddler

6. What are the most important boundaries in touch therapy session?

Hygiene is a must because I prepare for every cuddle so that the client is comfortable. Consent and communication are essential too. Lastly, I have zero tolerance for explicit talk and any improper touch.  

7. How would you ensure that no client crosses legal boundaries in a session?

I ensure clients understand my style of cuddling and my boundaries by having a conversation before our meeting. I ask first what their boundaries are, and then I share mine. Base on the conversation, I proceed or cancel the booking. 

8. How you see yourself contributing to this community?

I see myself having a space in the near future where there are many options for cuddling, like an office space with theme rooms for an interactive cuddle experience. 

9. Share something that describes you as an individual

One thing about me that I would say makes me unique is my joyful demeanor. I work on myself a weekly/monthly basis to keep myself in shape, both physically and mentally, to support others. I try my best to leave everyone better than I found them.

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National Cuddle up Day

Originally, we started Cuddle Connect site and thought of coming up with a Cuddle Connect’s Cuddle Day of the year. We decided to pick 21st December to be the most ideal day for us to define as the cuddle day for the various reasons. You can find about the reasons more here. But after we were educated that there is already a National Cuddle up Day, we decided why to reinvent the wheels on it 🙂 ! So when is truly the National Cuddle up Day if not on 21st December? – Well, National Cuddle Up Day falls on January 6 for a very important reason.

WHY NATIONAL CUDDLE UP DAY?

Primary reason being that January has some of the coldest temperatures of the year. Making January as a great excuse for anyone to cuddle up with ones closest to you! Get real cozy in January for cuddles. Cuddling is not just limited to married couples or people in dating relationships. You can cuddle with your children, cuddle with your friends or buddies, cuddle with your pets, cuddle up with siblings. Cuddling is not just to be get romantic but it is more about spending a quality time connecting at intimate levels that could be more affection oriented or care oriented.

Did you know you can even pay Professional Cuddlers on our website or mobile apps to cuddle with you? Our site also have Cuddle Buddy Enthusiasts who cuddle for free. Find a cuddle buddy and get ready to cuddle up this January!

HISTORY OF CUDDLE WORD IN HISTORY

Century – In the early 1500s – Cuddle as a term first got introduced into English

Century – In the early 2000s – It was proven by several research efforts that cuddling is extremely beneficial at various levels. A great thing to be added into our routine of self care. Benefits controlling your blood pressure, stress level, anxiety, depression, and may more aspects!

Year – In the year 2015 – First Cuddle Convention took place. Growing platonic health wellness oriented communities started to get recognition in form of awareness at various levels

Why National Cuddle Up Day Matters?

Significant Mental Health Benefits – Act of Cuddle comforts our body and even more importantly it has significant benefits for our state of mind. Cuddles releases happy hormones like oxytocin / dopamine — a chemical in the brain that helps improve focus and memory.

Cuddling Makes you Feel good – Effective for warming your body and more importantly your heart – Well, thanks to the oxytocin released! This “feel-good” hormone offers tremendous health benefits, like giving us the “warm fuzzies” and reducing aches and pains. Oxytocin also reduces heart disease, lowers blood pressure, and even decreases stress and anxiety. So, no matter when you cuddle up, you’re bound to benefit from these mood-boosting side effects.

Strengthens Connection & Builds Relationships – Cuddling with someone enhances your connection with that person. Even if you’re not verbally communicating, this type of contact helps increase feelings of trust, comfort, safety, and reassurance between cuddle partners. These feelings can also remain long after the cuddle session is over.

How to Celebrate National Cuddle Up Day on this 6th January 2020?

Cuddle up – Just the national day suggests “Cuddle up” 🙂 ! It’s not about being romantic or getting sexually active. Cuddling goes way beyond that. Cuddle partner can cuddle platonic for affectionate bonding and care. That’s why every sibling or friends or even furry pets can make excellent cuddle buddies!

Schedule a Therapeutic Cuddle or Massage session – Cuddle Therapy is an emerging industry just like Massage Industry. Cuddle Therapists offers services that benefits you in areas such as stress reduction and positive feelings of well-being.

Socialize – Spread the word about National Cuddle Up Day? Use the hashtag #NationalCuddleUpDay and #CuddleConnect ! Share with us on Instagram @cuddleconnectcc with us how you’re celebrating this wonderful feel-good cuddly national holiday.

Get Cuddle up Creative – Well these are just some ideas or thoughts to celebrate. At times, all we would have to do is go out, socialize with our friends, or hug our family. Give someone a consent affectionate hug! Play with your pets, cuddle up with them. Cuddle up by the fire place with your cuddle buddy, or listen to music. Play fun cuddle games.

Some other reasons to cuddle up

Physical touch can communicate trust, commitment, safety, and reassurance. This goes for human to human contact as well has human to pet contact. Cuddling communicates all these things which are vital to a strong connection and bonding to form a valuable relationship.

Cuddles help a mother bond much better with her infant or toddler children. As cuddling releases Oxytocin, it relaxes the mother so breastfeeding may come more easily. It also enables sleep, even when the mother might have difficulty sleeping with a newborn in the house.

Cuddling can actually help with social anxiety which helps you have a positive outlook on the world. 

National Cuddle Up Day is a real day! And while some may debate that the true-true origins of the holiday remains wrapped in mystery. The debate is not worth against the intent of this day! Cuddle up Day is a reminder for all of us about the health benefits of hugs and daylong snuggle parties are supported by science!

Think no more and say your Cuddle Buddy – Cuddle Up to me now !

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Cuddle Boundaries

“Please don’t touch me without my permission”

– Mr. Little Boy

For cuddling or touch to exist, there needs to be a relationship between the two partners. The kind of relationship that can define the type and extent to which the individuals can cuddle or touch each other. The way a married couple will cuddle will not be the same way the individuals in a platonic relationship will cuddle. This section contains the different types of relationships.

Queer Platonic (QPRs)

Queer Platonic is a relationship that features intimacy and closeness between the partners involved. It could be a romantic relationship or a non-romantic relationship. Specifically, it involves a platonic relationship or a close emotional connection between two people. The intimacy and level of commitment in a Queer Platonic relationship is greater than a romantic relationship. Some Queer Platonic relationships may or may not involve sex. Individuals in this relationship don’t consider themselves as best friends; it is far more than that, though to the onlooker they are seen as close friends. A Queer Platonic relationship can appear in whatever orientation the partners choose; either as a non-romantic or asexual relationship. You may hardly find two QPRs that are the same. One may involve kissing and/or sex while the other does not involve either or both of them.

Romantic

A romantic relationship is often defined as a sexual relationship. This is a general perception as not all romantic relationships are attached to sex or amorous affairs.
By definition, a romantic relationship is an intimate relationship where the involved partners respect each other. It is an emotional connection that may involve physical but not necessarily sexual intercourse. Essentially, it is an intimate relationship that provides two individuals the foundation to grow in their personal lives

Platonic

The term platonic relationship refers to a relationship that has a degree of intimacy between two partners. What makes this relationship stand out amongst others is the absence of sexual activities. Yes, there is no sexual activity in platonic relationships despite the closeness and emotions being shared by the two parties. Boundaries A healthy relationship is one with boundaries. When boundaries are properly defined and respected, it will go a long way in making your relationship last longer. These boundaries can often be crossed based on mutual understanding. If boundaries are always broken, then there is a need to set up a wall. These walls could be distance, abstinence or restrictions. Relationships with boundaries bring the feelings of both parties into consideration. In less healthy relationships where boundaries are not respected, the partners involved function by assumptions. They believe their partner feels the same way they do. They are not concerned or bothered by the consequences of breaching their partner’s boundaries. Boundaries in a non-romantic, asexual or romantic relationship is very crucial. It enables each partner to avoid violating the intimate space of their partner. It is also very important to clearly communicate boundaries to our partners. This makes us feel safe and happier in our relationships.

What are Boundaries in a Relationship?

Defining of trigger words In this regard, there is a need for the clarity of language to be used; especially those words that hurt. It is important to discuss words that remind you of your past negative experiences.

Agreeing on what you tell friends If you have friends that you share intimate information about your relationships, it will be best to tell your partner about them. You and your partner will decide the extent of the information your friends should know about the relationship. The most important thing is for both of you to be in agreement on such a sensitive issue.

Setting sexual boundaries Being in a committed relationship doesn’t mean there shouldn’t be sexual boundaries. Determining what to do and what not to do to or with your partner is important.

Deciding what’s off-limits to share It is very important to set a boundary such as what is off-limits to share; this makes each partner feel more comfortable in the relationship.

The Importance of Boundaries None wants to be controlled but that is what most people do in their relationships which often brings untimely doom. We want to be in charge of everything and want our partner to do only what we perceive to be right. This is unfair. A relationship in this direction is heading towards disintegration. When boundaries are set, you create a mutually understood relationship; a relationship filled with respect and love. It makes for maintaining a successful relationship. It makes you feel safe and heard.

The Importance of Consent and How to Communicate Consent is the permission given to you by your partner to do something or break certain boundaries. It means the person is aware of the forthcoming event and knows about its possible consequence. They can even say no if they change their mind at any point in time and the refusal should be honored. Consent and boundaries work together. When your partner declines a move, it means they’ve created a boundary and breaking this boundary without consent is unhealthy in a relationship. In a purposeful relationship, consent is very important. It is the responsibility of the two parties in a relationship to make sure that they feel comfortable and safe with each other. The way you behave or your actions towards your partner will surely have an effect on their feelings about you and it will deeply affect the relationship either positively or negatively. Importance of Consent Prior to making a decision in a relationship, the consent of both individuals involved should be obtained. When the two parties give consent to an action and the action yields undesirable results, they will both walk through its consequence together rather than one party throwing the blame. For the sake of emphasis, consent is required in all relationship dealings, particularly one that includes sexual intimacy. There should always be a consensual sexual activity regardless of the level of intimacy. It is against the law to go against the will of your partner. It’s not just a crime but the emotional trauma it evokes may last forever. How to Communicate If you want to gain the consent of your partner, there is a need for communication and getting a feedback – Yes or No.

Communicating is an art that allows for feedback. – You must be honest and the following tips will guide your communication so as to positively win your partner’s consent: replica rolex watches

Be Confident

Everyone acknowledges the bold; so, start being confident Confidence attracts or makes a person pay total attention to you. It makes you look great and worth people’s time. Be honest, don’t be manipulative. Be respectful, and be receptive.

Show Interest

Great communication means giving space to the person you are communicating with and understanding that they need to understand you. This understanding cannot be achieved if there is constant rambling during a conversation. Be as clear as possible and show interest in being understood. You should also be able to make others feel free and confident to talk about themselves instead of just listening to you..


Listen Twice, Speak Once

It’s important to give the other person your undivided attention when they are talking as this will lead to an ease and flow. The ability to exercise patience while listening to your partner’s reasons will create the room for smooth-sailing communication..

Do Not Attack

To get your partner’s consent, you should be careful with your choice of words as well as your tone of voice. Harsh words can sound like an attack which can make your partner go on the defense and feel less receptive to your message.

Be Honest

The truth hurts most of the time but it is necessary for a healthy relationship. You should learn how to be honest with your partner. Make your motives open and very easy to understand. Once your partner senses an ulterior motive, it becomes hard to fully trust you.

Check Your Body Language

Knowing how to use body language to maintain an effective and efficient communication will give you an opportunity of gaining consent from your partner. Make sure you give your partner the undivided attention he/she deserves and do not engage in any other activities like playing with your phone during a conversation.

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Professional Cuddler

“This is what it means to be loved… When someone wants to touch you… to be tender…”

Banana Yoshimoto

It is very essential to touch or hug the people we love. Firstly, hugs evoke a child’s sense of protection. Given the fact that touch pacifies the soul and lessens anxiety, it is no news that everyone needs touch.

A lifelong touch is necessary for a person and scientists have supported this found through studies and research that touch mostly stimulates the central nervous system. It also strengthens the immune system and enhances the secretion of the hormones oxytocin, endorphins, dopamine and serotonin which makes us feel good. Parents are urged to always calm small children with their soft touch. This enhances their mental and physical development.

Children who didn’t receive sufficient affectionate physical contact will more than likely develop anti-social tendencies and emotional challenges at a later age. Children are not the only benefactors of Touch. Both married and single people need to be touched to improve their psychological wellbeing.

There is a segment of human beings who are lonely or touch deprived due to unavoidable circumstances and they are uncomfortable with social scenes. One of the options for such people could be to engage the service of a Professional Cuddler. Professional Cuddlers help you with touching, hugging and conversations, an awesome massage as well as offering a platonic relationship such as going out to dinner, movies and so on. In other words, any platonic activities that a friend can do with you, can also be done by a Professional Cuddler; however, it’s important for you to understand the ethics of the profession so as not to do or expect things that are against the profession.


For the purpose of better understanding, the following highlights the benefits of touch in the lives of human beings.

√ It relieves stress.

While the importance of touch cannot be ruled out in relationships, it helps to reduce stress on the wailing partner. Due to the release of the oxytocin or feel-good hormones, it induces relaxation, therefore reducing stress. Just imagine how relaxed you feel when your partner cuddles you. This will make you always eager to come home to your partner for some cuddles; which in turn, increases the longevity and quality of your relationship.

√ Touch is good for your health.

When you express affection to your partner through touch, you don’t just keep your relationship healthy, you also keep yourself and your partner healthy. This is due to the release of oxytocin, dopamine, endorphins and serotonin, that are “love and feel good hormones” during touch. – It reduces your blood pressure and heart rate which makes you more resistant to heart diseases.

√ Better communication.

Regular touch is one of the best ways to communicate in a relationship. A sensitive touch can communicate more than 1000 words to your partner. It builds trust, which is one of the major prerequisites to a lasting relationship.

√ Touch demonstrates support.

To show and demonstrate support for your partner, particularly in a time of challenge, works wonders when it’s through touch. In fact, touch can show support more than mere words.. √ It makes you more optimistic. A good and lasting relationship is one that is always filled with life and positivity. Touch can bring positivity to a depressed person, rekindling their spirits and courage.

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