Touch Healing

Is Platonic Cuddling for you? Who Benefits from Platonic Cuddles?

Interested to learn more about Touch Practitioners aka Cuddle Therapist and Cuddle Empaths ? – Meet Cuddler Empath and learn a bit about this empath and also what touch therapy is all about! Our quick virtual interview with CuddlerEmpath89 that we hope you will find valuable !

1. Why did you choose Professional Cuddling?


Professional Cuddling fits with the core of who I am & my philosophy, my personal gifts and my professional qualifications skills & experience – I have a lot to offer in this area. I love to combine areas of wellness. I believe healing and well-being takes a multi function approach. I personally know how being touch-deprived negatively affects your wellbeing. I believe in the scientifically proven and suggested impact. I want to give back, share what I believe works and educate. Providing professional cuddles is a practical and meaningful way to do this, it just fits.

2. In your own words express how you can help your clients?


Through the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual benefits of platonic touch / professional-cuddling. Through the scientifically proven health benefits in all of the above areas. Through my natural gifts and professional skills I already and uniquely possess. By combining services to offer them additional powerful healing and improving their well-being. Building confidence, healing trauma, improving communication skills, improving their relationships, self-growth and empowerment. Emotional support and basic human attention & care. 

3. Who in your opinion are your ideal clients? 

I strive to be inclusive to everyone and everyone benefits. Ideal clients are 1. Chronic illness clients ie fibromyalgia 2. Disabled / intellectual disability clients ie neurological conditions, austism spectrum 3. Mental illness clients ie anxiety & depression 4. Single, divorced or touch deprived 5. Elderly clients. 6. Clients with confidence, social issues 
Each will recieve unique benefits and would also benefit from individually tailored sessions. 

4. What are your most unique skills that would help in Professional Cuddling?

I’m enthusiastic, bubbly, excellent people skills, empathetic, compassionate, emotionally intelligent, natural with touch. 
I’m a qualified health professional (Occupational Therapist) of 8+ years and in health care / customer service industry for 16+ years. I am highly skilled in communication, motivational nterviewing, functional assessment, behaviour change, pain management, rehabilitation, well-being. I’m a disability expert. 
I am doing further study towards life coaching, health & wellness coaching, relationships & Intimacy, mental health, exercise & nutrition, massage techniques, mindfulness & meditation etc. 

What sets me apart is offering the professional cuddling experience with other calming and healing elements like compassionate active listening, mindfulness, aromatherapy, hand or facial massage techniques, forest bathing and other outdoor options like camping cuddles. 

5. Introduce yourself as a Professional Cuddler

I’m CuddlerEmpath89, a health professional, wellness advocate and Professional Cuddler. I believe in the power of human physical platonic touch. I believe the world is deprived of one of the most natural, healing therapies out there and that everyone can benefit. Touch has been scientifically proven to improve multiple areas of your emotional, psychological and psychological health. Natural healing hormones are released, stress is reduced and even aides in illness prevention & anti-aging. 

6. What are the most important boundaries in touch therapy session?

Firstly establishing the clients (and your own) physical and mental/emotional boundaries – ie areas of the body, language, triggers etc. Establishing the process of communication to manage changes of boundaries. Managing sexual and emotional boundaries / expectations. Considering and reviewing the attachment, depencey, addiction risk and mental wellbeing of both involved. Always put the client and your well-being first. 

7. How would you ensure that no client crosses legal boundaries in a session?

Initially during pre-session communication (initial phone interview and at start of session) – I will reiterate the service is platonic, why, and outcomes of any sexual or inappropriate language / behaviour. If such behaviour rises during the session, I will immediately acknowledge it via a warning or an immediate end to the session. I will also ensure the client follows contractual processes like the client agreement, waiver etc. I will ensure my clothing, the environment and language is non sexually suggestive. 

8. How you see yourself contributing to cuddle community?

Being a successful, professional advocate for professional cuddling. Getting the word out there and growing my local community (New Zealand) access to professional cuddling services. Creating events to expand my reach and impact. Creating accessible options. Providing an addition or alternative (whilst I still encourage other professional services ie psychology) – I want to reach those clients who would be alone otherwise. Mental illness is rampant and growing such an industry makes so much sense! 

9. Share something that describes you as an individual

I personally have been diagnosed with multiple chronic conditions, I have a personal journey towards pain management, recovery and rehabilitation over the years. I have learnt so much personally and professionally towards wellbeing that I want to create businesses that include the most powerful tools for others. I know what it’s like to be bed bound, in pain, completely alone. Nobody deserves that. Everyone deserves unconditional love, respect, appreciation, affection and to be held / heard / seen and a strong quality of life / wellness. 

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Interview with Enthusiast Cuddler

As part of our interview series we get an opportunity to share experiences of our most valued professional cuddle therapist and enthusiast cuddlers of our cuddle community!

Today we are going to share some most intriguing cuddling insights from one of our enthusiast cuddlers of our cuddling community – Choices Vital

Tell us about your experience as an enthusiast cuddler, and what pre-pandemic cuddling looked like for you?


I have been more of an enthusiast cuddler and over several years I have met tons of professional cuddlers or even enthusiast cuddle buddies.

Professional Cuddling remains to be an emerging discipline.

Professional Cuddling as a discipline involves one primary ingredient and that is TOUCH! Touch therapy is an important aspect of Professional Cuddling. Although, given the discipline is emerging and evolving, other aspects of professional cuddling involves listening, talking, sharing, and connectedness.

For me specifically, any session is primarily dominated with aspects of touch based therapy but at the same time there is another important aspect for non-so touch oriented elements that helps me is the connectedness during any session. I have been able to mostly enjoy all my sessions with professional cuddlers who are being present for me, talk to me, share with me and just be there with me! That might sound bit all about me needing lot of attention! Well the fact of the matter is, yes being a care giver and out there helping multiple people, it drains me significantly that I do need the me time and with professional cuddlers, I am fortunate to get that needed attention and care!

One important thing, I have been personally volunteering at some of the Elder Care centers where I have gone and met with Elderly who live alone and are lonely. I tend to spend time connected with them. With them it is less about touch therapy and more about being present for them! Reason I emphasize this for building awareness about professional cuddling is therapy for lonely people of all ages, touch-deprived people of all ages, singles who are looking for connection without getting into a commitment relationship! It’s a platonic wellness discipline!

What is the importance of in-person cuddles?

We as humans are touchy-feely individuals with few exceptions! We are huggers! There is a reason we tend to have pets like dogs or cats or any other fluffy pets! We like warmth! So in-person cuddles is the key ingredient for a true genuine act of wellness.

How your cuddle experience changed under lockdown, and how you adapted to the loss of in-person intimacy?

Maybe I am speaking for the entire cuddle community out there but I am pretty sure it was a big shocker for all whether it is Enthusiast Cuddlers or Professional Cuddlers! We are all touchy-feely individuals! For any professional cuddler or Enthusiast cuddler – touch giving or receiving is one of their needs for well-being! Only a hugger can understand truly what it means to be suddenly not able to hug anyone due to social distancing.
In all honesty nothing can replace the in-person intimacy and connection! There is nothing sexual about it! People at times tend to mix intimacy with sex! There are various aspects of intimacy! For lack of words, platonic wellness cuddling is probably an affectionate & care form of intimacy than anything else. 
There is no true adapting to loss of in-person intimacy when it comes to me! Although, for sure there are people out there who have achieved a next level of maturity without the need for physical connection. But for me, there is a big learning curve out there to reach that level of maturity 🙂 !!

In-fact it is scary to even think of a world without in-person intimacy. It will be probably the most unhealthy world down the line OR if we are fortunate we all will turn into spiritually uplifted beings! Those are the two extremes I see, there won’t be an in-between! 🙂 !

Said that, I did for sure took this as an opportunity to explore some other aspects of wellness therapy involved listening, talking, sharing, and being connected with someone for a cause! So that was/is the temporary adaptation for me I guess! I will emphasize again I truly hope it’s temporary situation till there is a vaccine out there or herd immunity developed!

Although, I do know that in-person touch wellness is resuming but with a lot of precaution and care!  While hopefully ensuring abiding to the pandemic guidelines and protocols! I guess at some point we all will have to realize that folks who are within the cuddling community as enthusiasts or professionals cannot stay virtually connected for a longer time, physical in-person connection is like food for them!! This physical connection can be in the form of any kind of relationship, not necessarily a sort of romantic or couple kind. It is mostly buddy bonding kind!

What digital cuddles look like for you, and what you think you have/haven’t been able to accomplish while being limited by digital tools?

Honestly speaking, there isn’t truly anything like digital cuddling! It’s nothing less than faking ourselves probably unless you are part of the community that has matured to that level! It’s a boon for those who found their leap!

Said that, there is probably a digital connection for lack of words! and even the concept of self-cuddling that is evolving more prominently with the combination of digital connection!

What I am observing amongst the cuddle community like CuddleConnect.com is lots of cuddlers professionals or enthusiasts that during the pandemic times, they are finding creative ways to stay connected with each other across the world! Infact, one of the most visible thing that has become in the CuddleConnect.com community is that geographical barriers are in a way broken. Lots of members across the world have been reaching out to me at least and I am doing the same giving an opportunity to now connect with each other across states, countries and even continents. I am noticing there is more openness now amongst non-local members who are willingly engaging with me even though I am not local to them. I guess we all are taking advantage of Virtual Buddy Connection concept. It’s all good experimental thing for me and worth trying while I am limited with my physical connections!

Professionals are now not limited to just connect with people locally but now they can connect virtually with anyone. Indeed no physical in-person connection can be established but instead it is getting replaced with Lot of Virtual meet and sessions in form of Talk, Listen, Share, Connect, Exchange Messages, and one important aspect Professional Cuddlers are even teaching Self-Cuddling, Meditation, Distant Reiki, Yoga, Fitness, and more via their special sessions.

So that’s the exploration phase I am noticing as I engage with multiple members pro or otherwise, it appears that the cuddle discipline is growing beyond just the idea of Physical touch into Digital Connectedness !!


What you think digital intimacy is during this time and what you’ve been able to learn about yourself?

In a way, I answered that above in the last paragraph around the aspect of how digital connectedness is emerging in these times while it will definitely never be a permanent replacement to in-person intimacy! It better not else I don’t what will happen of me 🙂 !! lol! I am significantly touch starved while being extra cautious to not become the reason to cause an exposure to any elderly’s health condition negatively that I have commitment towards!

Our questions from CuddleConnect.com to you are all converging to ask a simple question: what is a cuddle to you, when you can’t do it in-person?

Hopefully, you got your answers in all of my above responses! Probably that’s all I have to say for now!

This concludes our interview questions with Choices Vital – Cuddle Enthusiast in our cuddling community! We thank Choices Vital for all the time you gave in responding to all of our questions!

If you read it this far, we at CuddleConnect.com thank you for taking the time to read our interview series. We are also very much interested to hear from you. Are you interested to share your experiences or thoughts? Reach us out at CuddleConnect.com. Let us know how you think we at CuddleConnect.com are making a difference for their members in the world of pandemic!

Hoping you are able to create something valuable out of this information that helps spreading good word about our CuddleConnect.com community!

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Touch Therapy

Professional cuddling is an emerging industry and we here at CuddleConnect.com have created short but very focused free online training videos for this emerging industry. These videos help significantly newbies or enthusiast interested in learning more about who are professional cuddlers. Also, it helps anyone to understand what is our touch wellness oriented cuddle platform all about. An easy way for anyone to register and connect with cuddle buddies for commitment free cuddle connection!

Here is an interview with one of our cuddle professional that would help you learn more about cuddling in general when it comes to self-care! Remember there are no right or wrong responses!

Why did you choose Professional Cuddling?

As a kid I did not understand much about cuddling or sexual preferences. Which most kids don’t learn until someone older teaches them or they experience on their own. I did not know it was possible to cuddle with and feel pure bliss that isn’t sexual related. As an adult I want to share my love of cuddling with other people and educate them on the benefits. Not everyone understands or knows how cuddling can increase life expectancy and relieve stress. That is why I chose to become a professional cuddler.

In your own words express how you can help your clients? 

What I believe I can do for my clients is create a space where they feel safe as well as loved. I am about bringing in positive energy and keeping out negative energy. Through listening to calming music, and simply letting my clients talk. People are complex, some have been touched deprived others have been deprived of love. My only goal is to be a light in the darkness and help my clients to feel worthy as a human being.

Who in your opinion are your ideal clients?

 Communication is important to me. I do not like flip flopping or ambiguity. I like people to be straight forward with what they expect to gain from the experience. Transparency is key to building any type of relationship and it makes the cuddle experience more enjoyable.

What are your most unique skills that would help in Professional Cuddling?

Personally I am still inexperienced with professional cuddling. What I have learned from the clients I’ve had is that they enjoy how blunt I am and my smile. So if I had to say a skill set it would be that I call things how I see them and I make people laugh

What are the most important boundaries in touch therapy session?

To me most important boundary is comfort level. If someone says can you touch me harder or softer, it is up to the client’s request. As long as the client is comfortable then the session will go smoothly. However, if a client ask for something outrageous like a blow job then it is up to me to respectfully decline and ask them to leave because I do not offer such service.

How would you ensure that no client crosses legal boundaries in a session?

Well the biggest weapon or recourse would be to have everything in writing or recorded. However, for recordings people must consent or it will be tossed in court. So my best option would be to use text messages or emails to make sure the client understands their role and mine. If that does not work, the next step would be to attempt to convince the person legal action does not need to be taken, by admitting my mistake or settling if they are not satisfied with my apology. 

How you see yourself contributing to cuddle community?

Well, I almost left this community because I was scared by a client that attempted to solicit sex from me. It is not the first time either, I have used other websites too and find that some times people are simply horny. In any case, I hope to contribute by advertising the website to my friends, and recommending people to use the website. Of course not everyone will check it out or sign up, but at least I know it is a safe and knowledgeable community for someone to get started in the industry if they choose to.  Also if I become popular enough maybe I could help make educational videos or a blog about cuddling. Either way I decided to not let one person deter me from the good work cuddle connect is doing and I’d love to find ways to help in the growth of the website.

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Cuddle Boundaries

“Please don’t touch me without my permission”

– Mr. Little Boy

For cuddling or touch to exist, there needs to be a relationship between the two partners. The kind of relationship that can define the type and extent to which the individuals can cuddle or touch each other. The way a married couple will cuddle will not be the same way the individuals in a platonic relationship will cuddle. This section contains the different types of relationships.

Queer Platonic (QPRs)

Queer Platonic is a relationship that features intimacy and closeness between the partners involved. It could be a romantic relationship or a non-romantic relationship. Specifically, it involves a platonic relationship or a close emotional connection between two people. The intimacy and level of commitment in a Queer Platonic relationship is greater than a romantic relationship. Some Queer Platonic relationships may or may not involve sex. Individuals in this relationship don’t consider themselves as best friends; it is far more than that, though to the onlooker they are seen as close friends. A Queer Platonic relationship can appear in whatever orientation the partners choose; either as a non-romantic or asexual relationship. You may hardly find two QPRs that are the same. One may involve kissing and/or sex while the other does not involve either or both of them.

Romantic

A romantic relationship is often defined as a sexual relationship. This is a general perception as not all romantic relationships are attached to sex or amorous affairs.
By definition, a romantic relationship is an intimate relationship where the involved partners respect each other. It is an emotional connection that may involve physical but not necessarily sexual intercourse. Essentially, it is an intimate relationship that provides two individuals the foundation to grow in their personal lives

Platonic

The term platonic relationship refers to a relationship that has a degree of intimacy between two partners. What makes this relationship stand out amongst others is the absence of sexual activities. Yes, there is no sexual activity in platonic relationships despite the closeness and emotions being shared by the two parties. Boundaries A healthy relationship is one with boundaries. When boundaries are properly defined and respected, it will go a long way in making your relationship last longer. These boundaries can often be crossed based on mutual understanding. If boundaries are always broken, then there is a need to set up a wall. These walls could be distance, abstinence or restrictions. Relationships with boundaries bring the feelings of both parties into consideration. In less healthy relationships where boundaries are not respected, the partners involved function by assumptions. They believe their partner feels the same way they do. They are not concerned or bothered by the consequences of breaching their partner’s boundaries. Boundaries in a non-romantic, asexual or romantic relationship is very crucial. It enables each partner to avoid violating the intimate space of their partner. It is also very important to clearly communicate boundaries to our partners. This makes us feel safe and happier in our relationships.

What are Boundaries in a Relationship?

Defining of trigger words In this regard, there is a need for the clarity of language to be used; especially those words that hurt. It is important to discuss words that remind you of your past negative experiences.

Agreeing on what you tell friends If you have friends that you share intimate information about your relationships, it will be best to tell your partner about them. You and your partner will decide the extent of the information your friends should know about the relationship. The most important thing is for both of you to be in agreement on such a sensitive issue.

Setting sexual boundaries Being in a committed relationship doesn’t mean there shouldn’t be sexual boundaries. Determining what to do and what not to do to or with your partner is important.

Deciding what’s off-limits to share It is very important to set a boundary such as what is off-limits to share; this makes each partner feel more comfortable in the relationship.

The Importance of Boundaries None wants to be controlled but that is what most people do in their relationships which often brings untimely doom. We want to be in charge of everything and want our partner to do only what we perceive to be right. This is unfair. A relationship in this direction is heading towards disintegration. When boundaries are set, you create a mutually understood relationship; a relationship filled with respect and love. It makes for maintaining a successful relationship. It makes you feel safe and heard.

The Importance of Consent and How to Communicate Consent is the permission given to you by your partner to do something or break certain boundaries. It means the person is aware of the forthcoming event and knows about its possible consequence. They can even say no if they change their mind at any point in time and the refusal should be honored. Consent and boundaries work together. When your partner declines a move, it means they’ve created a boundary and breaking this boundary without consent is unhealthy in a relationship. In a purposeful relationship, consent is very important. It is the responsibility of the two parties in a relationship to make sure that they feel comfortable and safe with each other. The way you behave or your actions towards your partner will surely have an effect on their feelings about you and it will deeply affect the relationship either positively or negatively. Importance of Consent Prior to making a decision in a relationship, the consent of both individuals involved should be obtained. When the two parties give consent to an action and the action yields undesirable results, they will both walk through its consequence together rather than one party throwing the blame. For the sake of emphasis, consent is required in all relationship dealings, particularly one that includes sexual intimacy. There should always be a consensual sexual activity regardless of the level of intimacy. It is against the law to go against the will of your partner. It’s not just a crime but the emotional trauma it evokes may last forever. How to Communicate If you want to gain the consent of your partner, there is a need for communication and getting a feedback – Yes or No.

Communicating is an art that allows for feedback. – You must be honest and the following tips will guide your communication so as to positively win your partner’s consent: replica rolex watches

Be Confident

Everyone acknowledges the bold; so, start being confident Confidence attracts or makes a person pay total attention to you. It makes you look great and worth people’s time. Be honest, don’t be manipulative. Be respectful, and be receptive.

Show Interest

Great communication means giving space to the person you are communicating with and understanding that they need to understand you. This understanding cannot be achieved if there is constant rambling during a conversation. Be as clear as possible and show interest in being understood. You should also be able to make others feel free and confident to talk about themselves instead of just listening to you..


Listen Twice, Speak Once

It’s important to give the other person your undivided attention when they are talking as this will lead to an ease and flow. The ability to exercise patience while listening to your partner’s reasons will create the room for smooth-sailing communication..

Do Not Attack

To get your partner’s consent, you should be careful with your choice of words as well as your tone of voice. Harsh words can sound like an attack which can make your partner go on the defense and feel less receptive to your message.

Be Honest

The truth hurts most of the time but it is necessary for a healthy relationship. You should learn how to be honest with your partner. Make your motives open and very easy to understand. Once your partner senses an ulterior motive, it becomes hard to fully trust you.

Check Your Body Language

Knowing how to use body language to maintain an effective and efficient communication will give you an opportunity of gaining consent from your partner. Make sure you give your partner the undivided attention he/she deserves and do not engage in any other activities like playing with your phone during a conversation.

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Empty Nester Cuddling Therapy

“There is a myth of the slippery slope that non-sexual touch inevitably leads to sexual touch, which is unfounded, scientifically unsupported and basically is paranoid. It’s pretty crazy actually if we just look at it. The assumption that soothing touch leads to sexual touch is nonsensical. In spite of numerous therapeutic approaches, theories and practices that systematically and effectively use touch in therapy, it has been marginalized, forbidden, called a taboo, often sexualized and at times criminalized by many schools and ethicists, licensing boards as well.” – Ofer Zur

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